Living the questions, one moment at a time.

Saturday, July 14, 2012

It's Tourist Season With Sunsets

My life on Cape Cod is just like anyone else's life, I guess. But being a native Cape Codder, I've realized, comes with a sort of code of unspoken rules that apply during the summer months. These rules include:

1) If at all possible, don't try to come on Cape on a Friday, or leave on a Sunday.
2) Assume that every other driver on the road is an idiot.
3) Just because you arrive at the beach before 10am and paid some serious cash for a sticker, does not mean that there will be a parking space for you.
  
....and others I'm sure.

Rule #2 stems from my general anxiety surrounding a few near misses in the last couple of weeks. I've nearly lost my life on several occasions, occasions that involve two common denominators: tourists and rotaries.

For any of you reading this who may not be familiar with what a rotary is, let me explain. A rotary is a fascinating type of circular intersection that supposedly decreases traffic by allowing cars to get off at an exit without having to deal with traffic lights, etc. The amazing thing about a rotary (which tourists don't seem to understand) is that IF YOU MISS YOU EXIT, YOU CAN KEEP GOING AROUND THE CIRCLE. It's like a Ferris Wheel; once you're on, you're on until you get off (or the ride stops, but that's besides the point). YOU DO NOT STOP SHORT IN A ROTARY. I REPEAT: YOU DO NOT STOP.

Besides the occasional traffic woes, my little town of Sandwich remains generally untouched by the tourist gangs (except for the occasional elderly tour bus by the Sandwich Glass Museum, a place we Sandwich kids frequented as young children on field trips). For whatever reason, that place seems to be a hot ticket. At least compared to the towns downcape like Wellfleet and Chatham, I can still usually find a parking spot at my favorite local beaches.

The other night, I went for a walk on the Sandwich Boardwalk with my childhood friend. This will always be one of my favorite spots in the world, no matter where I end up.







The beautiful moments in life are without a doubt worth the occasional traffic jam.


Saturday, July 7, 2012

Camp Log

Week two of camp down, and it was another great one. Some hilarious and/or moving stories and quotes that have put a smile on my face this week:

My "Aw's"
One of my campers said something to me, but she didn't speak loudly enough so I asked her to repeat her question. But apparently she didn't think volume was the issue. "I know, I can't pronounce my AW's (R's) right so you might not understand me."

Creation Fun
During a walk, a camper standing next to me looked around at the scenary, sighed, and said to me, "God must have had so much fun making this place. Everything is just so beautiful."

What I wanted to say to this moving, spontaneous comment was, "I think you're absolutely right" but obviously we can't talk religion at camp so I just smiled. But you would be shocked at how often the subject comes up among the campers themselves.


How Many Years?
On Thursday during our walk to the tidal flats, I expressed that I was sad that we were on our second to last day of the camp week. To which one of my campers replied, "I know, I might just stay here for 1,097 years." Wait, we don't even get 1,098 out of you?!


British/American Accents: A Lesson
Another camper moved here from England when she was around two. Her older sister, who I had last year, was a year or so older at the time of the move. This created a fascinating difference in the two of them. The older one still has a British accent that is as strong as if she still lived there, while the younger one's accent only comes out in certain moments. She does, however, say words like "lovely" quite often, and speaks in an adorably proper way.

At the pond on Tuesday, I got a lesson from the younger sister in speaking when I asked her about her background in England. To demonstrate that her and her sister are a little different, she used a certain hilarious example. "So for example, my sister says 'pasta' (in a British accent) and I say "PAAAAHHHHSSSSTTTAAA" (in a long, drawn-out Boston accent). I almost peed myself on the trail. Not sure that anyone in the United States says the word quite like that, but the exaggeration was aboslutely priceless.

Later, when we were still on the topic, the younger sister laughed, shrugged her shoulders, and delcared, "I didn't choose to be American, it just happened to me." HA.

Four Dads 
I think some of most special moments at camp come when kids who may not fit in elsewhere are able to find commonalities with others. The following story is not from my group, but a fellow counselor told it yesterday and I had to share.

In this particular group of nine to eleven-year-olds, there is a set of twin boys with two dads. (Note: this is not terribly uncommon at this camp. At least a handful of kids every week have this type of family). I guess the boys are teased and tormented for this in their home state. In their camp group this week was another little boy. Guess what? He had two dads too.

"We've never met ANYONE else with dads like us!" the pair exclaimed. They all became best friends over the course of the week, and now four dads and three sons are hanging out at the beach this weekend. (Most of this story came from one of these thankful dads).

Ten points for day camp.



Monday, July 2, 2012

One Last Look

Recently, I've noticed that I have a certain tendency. It is not necessarily a positive or negative tendency, but a tendency nonetheless.

I always want my last look.

I'll explain. To me, leaving a person or a place or a time or a situation, even if it's only temporary, sparks an overwhelming desire to sear everything around me into my permanent memory. A "last look." When I keep looking, whatever has happened or whoever I'm with becomes real. Without this look, I'm terrified of forgetting.

My departure from Perugia comes to mind. One of my roommates, Ashley, and I were racing to make the same train to Rome in order to catch our flights out. When we finally got on the train, I started to feel almost shaky and unsettled (it was an emotional few days, but this was an even more exaggerated feeling). For a minute, I couldn't figure out why. But then a lightbulb went off, and I turned to Ashley.

"I forgot to look back."

Between almost missing the train, the heat, and the stress of getting huge suitcases down multiple escalators and steep hills, I had forgotten to have my last holy moment of meditation, to ingrain the rolling hills, gentle breeze, and enchanting fountain into the space behind my eyes and the depths of my heart.

Sure, I had a whole semester's worth of memories of these things. But there's something about that last look. There's something about knowing that it will be a long time before you have that view again (if you ever do) that makes you want to remember everything exactly as it was the moment you had to say goodbye.

Sometimes, these last looks are a blessing. But other times, they haunt you. The problem is that sometimes these final glances last longer than perhaps they should. Then I get stuck.

I just finished the most beautiful book over the weekend called, "A Tree Grows in Brooklyn." I think it is my new favorite. I picked it up years ago but never read it. So glad I waited until I was older. This stunning passage is present in the story, and reflects my sentiments perfectly:

"It was the last time she would see the river from that window. The last time of anything has the poignancy of death itself. This that I see now, she thought, to see no more this way. Oh, the last time how clearly you see everything; as though a magnifying light had been turned on it. And you grieve because you hadn't held it tighter when you had it everyday."

That's the key, I think. That is the piece of the puzzle that I think we are all guilty of missing at one point or another. The piece that involves living every moment and appreciating each and every triumph and struggle.

It's not that a last look is a bad thing. Not at all. Not when you've been looking all along. Perugia taught me how to look.

And THAT is what I am wishing for myself every day of my life. To always have the clarity and mindfulness to absorb and cherish every view, event, and journey like it is my first and last time.




Wednesday, June 27, 2012

"Will You Hold My Hand?" An Analysis of the Six-Year-Old Mind.

I'm almost through my first week at camp with actual campers, and to say it has been exciting would be the understatement of the century. This couldn't have been a better group to start my summer off with; while there will always be those occasional moments of misbehavior (which is inevitable among six-year-olds), they are an inquisitive, friendly, and passionate bunch. Beyond that, they provide a great analysis for social behaviors. (This is the psych major talking).

Six-year-olds both directly and indirectly provide startling insights into human nature. Take the love triangle that is blossoming between three of my campers as the week progresses. Two boys, both trying to get the attention of one little girl. They utilize various methods to garner said attention. My personal favorites include their Star Wars battles with frequent glances at her reactions, or one of the boys chasing her around at the marsh with a huge fiddler crab in his hand yelling, "He's gonna eaaaaaat youuuuu!" The more she laughed, the more he did it. As we were walking in line back to the camp classroom awhile later, the girl exclaimed to me with a look of amused exasperation on her face, "Maria, these boys are KILLING me!" It was absolutely precious. Kid, wish I could tell you that it gets better. (Although I think some of us would agree that their courting methods involving Star Wars and fiddler crabs are far more charming than some of the sketchiness we've endured. But I digress).

Since the little girl was amused and not annoyed or upset, I gave her a piece of wisdom. "Hun, sometimes when boys want to be friends with you, they do crazy things that they think will make you like them. Silly, huh?" She laughed. And who says girl bonding can't cross age barriers?

What else do I love about six-year-olds? They are so willing to give love. I can't count how many times I've heard, "You're the best teacher and I love you!" this week. From kids that were too shy to even look at me the first day. And then those "will you hold my hand?" moments. Little kids, boys and girls, always want to hold your hand. Yes, you can hold my hand while we walk.

It's too bad that in a few years, that won't be cool anymore.

But want to know what IS cool? The acts of kindness I watched unfold before my very eyes. We hear so much about bullying and torment, but kids can also be full of innocent compassion. Take one boy who was in tears today about his sore wiggly tooth. Almost immediately, several kids were sitting in a circle on the floor with him, relating their own dramatic wiggly tooth experiences. "My big brother said if you wiggle your tooth 100 times, it will fall out!" one girl offered. And soon the crying boy was laughing as they all counted to 100 with him. The tooth still didn't come out, but he had supporters.

Keep being the awesome kids you are, my little six-year-olds. I'm taking notes.

Sunday, June 24, 2012

The Next Best Thing to Getting a Hogwarts Letter

It has recently come to my attention that I never wrote about my trip to the Harry Potter set in London! Eek! I can't pass up the opportunity to achieve another level of nerd status (but the best kind of nerdiness possible).

The trip in itself was kind of a hike. You have to take the London overground to a suburb, and the whole ride is pushing fifty minutes or so. THEN we took the "Knight Bus" from the station to the actual set. Yes, it was actually a double-decker painted purple.



Walking in, the entire wall of the lobby contains huge portraits of the cast like the ones below. They made me teary!


The amazing part? Walking through the authentic sets, exactly where and as they were during filming! The door to the Great Hall...


And the Great Hall itself!




Clock

And Dumbledore's office!



And of course, I had to sample the famous (albeit expensive) Butterbeer. It was actually some of the best stuff I've ever tasted. Probably because it's magical.



Recognize this?
It's Number Four, Privet Drive!

House where Voldemort killed the Potters

Beautiful covered bridge from the third movie! This was the only actual part of the structure. The rest of the bridge was visual effects. 

Weasley joke shop
  I feel like graphic artists, set decorators, etc. never get enough credit.  Visiting the sets and seeing the props up close demonstrated the unparalleled talents of so many. Each of the hundreds of Weasley joke shop products, for example, had authentic labels with pretend ingredients. The Daily Prophet up close read like a real newspaper (they even had advertisements!) Even though such props are on camera for only about half a second (and at a distance), the crew made sure that every last detail of every prop and every costume and every set held unique authenticity.

Amazing...this Hogwarts model used for wide shots took a crew of engineers and designers over a year (I think even quite a bit longer) to construct. 


Definitely an experience I'll never forget! This trip, for me, gives the books and movies a whole new meaning.

Tuesday, June 19, 2012

Summer Snapshots

If my calculations are correct (and they may very well not be), I've been home for about six weeks now. And how much has happened. So many milestones in the lives of so many people that I love. This post is not only about those milestones, but also about the everyday moments. Because while graduations and weddings and birthdays are certainly memorable, it's those snapshots of time in between that define life in a way.

So here is my summer so far in pictures. And some explanation where needed. :)

Recently, I've been making sure to capture some moments with Robbie and Joey (when we can all get in one place!) Something clicked in my brain when they visited me in Italy in April. I don't know what it was, but I realized that they're really growing up. Maybe it was watching Joey meet Lucia, the teacher I worked with in Perugia, and observing him give her a firm handshake while looking her straight in the eyes. The way an adult would. Maybe it was just seeing the boys out of context that made me truly appreciate just how uniquely kind and fun they are. Are sibling relationships perfect 24/7? Of course not. Definitely not. But I've been pretty lucky.

We were recruited to paint our new fence. 


Joey's piano recital last week
Oh yeah, and his travel soccer team won the huge regional Memorial Day soccer tournament, too.  Tough life he has.

Take Robbie, for example. I remember looking at him a few years ago and thinking that I could never imagine him looking any older. Kind of how I think of Joey now. But Joey's voice will probably drop this year, and he'll be a foot taller next summer. That's what happened to Robbie, anyway...

 Robbie and his friend Mads met each other in diapers. Watching these two and his other childhood friends graduate felt almost more surreal than my own graduation three years ago. Maybe it's because I actually remember babysitting them, or that I can still hear their high-pitched toddler screams. Or maybe it's just the fact that their graduation means that I'm getting older, too. For these reasons and others, the picture below actually makes me cry. I'm just so proud of them.


Some more from graduation:




Robbie's not the only one who is living the good life. Having celebrated my 21st on June 4th, I am pretty pumped to be legal in every country now. (Added bonus: I like my license picture now way more than the last. Rain combined with my long, thick hair didn't work out too well five years ago).

Any excuse for ice cream cake. My favorite!


Some orange/pineapple deliciousness

My birthday was unfortunately on a Monday, which made celebrating with friends difficult. But no matter, that just means we have all summer!

Or not. I work around 50 hours a week now. But I'm loving my second summer teaching at camp in Wellfleet! More to come when we actually start receiving campers next week. :)

Wednesday, June 13, 2012

What Happened to the Treehouse?

The other night, I had a headache. My worst one in awhile. Trying to hold off on medication for as long as humanly possible (I have this weird fear of damaging my liver) I decided to distract myself with a movie. I randomly stumbled upon Bridge to Terabithia. Remembering how much I loved the book as a kid (but remembering very little about the actual story), I turned it on. And it all came flooding back. All of the reasons I fell in love with it.

Long story short, a preteen boy with a difficult family life befriends his new neighbor, a girl with a vivid imagination and passion for living. Together, they find a rope swing hanging over a creek in the woods, and create an imaginary world called Terabithia with the creek acting as a sort of portal into it. (Side note: The setting is supposed to be Virginia, but I guess the movie was actually filmed in New Zealand for whatever reason. But it makes for stunning scenery that adds overwhelming beauty. Makes me want to go!) The story takes a tragic turn on several different levels, and is truly a masterpiece. I encourage you all to watch it (it's on Youtube) because I believe that adults have so much to learn from such a story.

I swear I'm not getting paid to promote this movie. But it really had me thinking back to my imagination as a kid. In fact, make-believe fueled the majority of my childhood fun.

Although I am obviously quite young, I feel like I still grew up before the majority of today's major technologies took off. Kids didn't have cell phones when I was little. Black and white Gameboys and N64 were essentially the only major video game systems. We didn't have a single computer in the house until I was in junior high school. The June I turned six, our television broke. Rather than go buy a new one, my parents decided that this would be the "Summer of No TV" in the Papapietro household. I only cared for the first few mornings when I couldn't get my Sesame Street or Winnie the Pooh fix (no Disney Channel for us back then). After that very quick adjustment, I honestly forgot about it. Looking back, I'm glad I didn't have these distractions; the neighborhood kids and I made our own fun.

Bikes often played a huge role in this fun. When I was ten and my next-door neighbor was twelve, our parents decided that we were at an acceptable age to start riding our bikes around our very small neighborhood unsupervised (provided of course that we stuck together and told them where we were going). This opened up a whole new world for us. We could explore.

On one of these early biking days, Erin and I came across a mysterious dirt road off of one of the neighborhood streets. We had never seen it when we were walking with our families; it quite literally almost seemed to have appeared out of thin air. It was like a different world, maybe something out of the Wizard of Oz. A few small cottages with green thatched rooves dotted the woodsy road. Erin and I concluded that witches lived in these strange houses. We proceeded to venture back daily for a few weeks, leaving small rocks as "traps" in the middle of the street. If the rock was even slightly turned or moved upon our return, we assumed that a witch did it. Case closed. This wasn't the only mysterious new path we came across. We also discovered one a few doors down from my house that led straight to the nearby farm. (Although we stopped using this path when the two reclusive teenage boys down the street condescendingly offered us pot in the woods one afternoon. To which I replied, "Oh, a pot? What are you cooking?").

My cousins and I utilized a similar "trapping" tactic whenever they visited. Kara, Julie and I were downright convinced that a secret underground network of robbers existed underneath my house. Naturally. (This may have stemmed from my love of Nancy Drew books). How did we catch those robbers? By leaving quarters, dimes, nickels and pennies on my bedroom floor! What robber could resist fifty-seven cents in change? We would then hide in the closet and wait for the robber to walk into our midst. A coin was missing? We proved the robber's existence! Years later, my cousins and I jokingly confessed to moving the coins various times when the others weren't looking. We really wanted to keep our game going, and our imaginations alive. That was the point of it all, anyway.

We dressed like princesses, too.
And then, there was the clubhouse. The summer before kindergarten, my dad built my brother and I a clubhouse in a small clearing in our backyard. This clubhouse saw years of pattering feet and splattered Freeze-Pops. It transformed from a pirate ship to a jungle fortress to a mountaintop. It served as "base" for countless games of tag, as we shimmed up the ladder to escape our pursuer.

Over time, the wood darkened. Our growing limbs made scurrying up the narrow ladder increasingly difficult. Our bums no longer fit in the tiny wooden treehouse chairs. I would soon grow as tall as the clubhouse itself, my forehead touching the raised floor if I was standing on the ground beside it. This changed my perspective both literally and figuratively. But the clubhouse still stood.

Until one day when I was fourteen.

On this particular early summer afternoon, Joey and one of his friends were playing in the clubhouse; at six, it still loomed in their eyes. Joey got up from a clubhouse chair and walked across the floor. CRACK. One second, Joey was standing tall. The next, he was crumpled on the ground under the treehouse, staring up at the sky through a hole about as wide as his tiny body.

This whole story is actually amusing, because besides a small scrape, Joey was not hurt. The clubhouse saw far more damage than he did. But what followed was less than funny.

As I stepped onto the back porch after coming off the bus the next afternoon, I noticed something immediately. I let out a gasp.

The treehouse was gone.

I knew immediately what had happened. I sprinted up the stairs, calmly closed my bedroom door, and started to cry. Small, heaving sobs. At fourteen, I was surprised by my reaction. I hadn't spent a substantial amount of time in the clubhouse in at least two years. Why did I care so deeply?

After about fifteen minutes, I composed myself and went down to the kitchen, where my parents had been sitting. I unsuccessfully tried to hide the fact that I had been crying moments before (though my eyes were bloodshot and still brimming with tears) while I asked them where the treehouse was.

My dad spoke first. "I had to take it down, Maria. It was becoming too old and dangerous for everyone."

I lost it again. "But. we. could. have. saveddddddd itttttt!!!!!"

Looking back, it wasn't so much the clubhouse that had me so upset. The dismantling of the clubhouse only symbolized a period of drastic transition that I was already a part of. I would be starting high school in the fall. I was spending less time outside running around and exploring. Why did everything have to change? Why did so many parts of my childhood have to go? (The swing set also broke that summer).  Why was everyone becoming less interested in make-believe?

I wonder....at what age does imagination take the back seat?

Or does it? I read constantly, and reading takes me to another world. I may not explore the neighborhood woods with the awe that filled my seven-year-old heart during such pursuits, but exploring the streets of medieval Italian hill towns certainly had a similar effect. Imagination does not have to end. It just goes through a period of transformation.

But on the eve of a year of major transitions and decision-making, I sometimes find myself longing for my clubhouse, searching for my own "Terabithia."