In my psychotherapy capstone course (through which I am writing my thesis) our professor has four rules. As we are a very small group and share intimate parts of our lives, struggles, and experiences, these things need to happen:
Listen. Self-explanatory. But "hearing" and "listening" are two very different concepts. You listen with your heart.
Be in the moment. If there are any outside issues affecting someone's ability to focus, we have the permission to seek advice and deal with the problem. It is only then that we can concentrate on learning effectively.
Speak the truth without blame. Everyone has a story. Some are painful. Some seem unfair. But stressing how they have given us a caretaker's spirit rather than placing blame (if blame is due) is what matters, and that attitude will keep us present.
Don't be attached to the outcome. My favorite. It's the process.
I think these rules can apply to life too, no?
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